We see the same divide a families and teens struggle with death, memorial services, and grieving.
There "elder" rituals that are important such as visitation, flowers, memory gifts to Hope & Healing, telling the dates at the service and then there is the burial site or cremation urn.
Teens and young adults do not always know Judy Collins, or the rituals so important to the older adult. We listen to teens and young adults push back at a time when everyone is numb from the death and loss and yet young people really do not have established rituals of their own.
Five yrs ago I listened as a teen sister of a sibling death read her words of praise from her phone...that was 5 yrs ago!
We see teens and young adults using this numb time of a death differently....less time in public gatherings....more time informally setting and talking, plus all the postings on FBook, Twitter, videos, and e's.
Generations of family finding their own path in sadness, missing, and grief.
The blurring of rituals and "how we do this" is working its way out in front of us all. We listen, we learn together.
Judy Collins and Lady Gaga exist in the same space.
What is important is to value, respect, and appreciate each.