Earlier this month, Danny Mize came and shared with the families of HHP about how they can better prepare themselves for this time, that may not feel like the most joyous of seasons. Here is what he shared:
- Plan ahead. Surprises may evoke greater feelings.
- Be prepared to be flexible. You can't control everything.
- Change can be good and difficult at the same time.
- Be easy on yourself. You can't please everyone.
- Evaluate your ability to cope in various situations.
- Give yourself what you need. Ask for help.
- Enjoy what you can, when you can.
- Be gentle on others, too. Do something for others.
- Don't deprive children of their holidays.
- Include whatever spiritual activities are helpful to you.
- Remember the value of memories, rituals, and traditions.
- Realize there are many holidays and anniversaries during the year.
- Remember - whatever you do after the death is for the living.
Some traditions will overwhelm you, others you'll hold so tight they might break and still there might be new traditions to implement (we'll talk on this topic soon). The point is, be kind... to yourself and those around you. Be willing to share what is too much, and ask for reprieve. It's not selfish, it's self care.
Wishing you all the ability to find hope this Holiday Season,