For individuals and families facing the first Christmas season following a death the traditions and rituals are upside down and what is missing this season are highlighted and felt deeply by everyone.
At the time we grieve so deeply of how our lives and family has changed forever, it can be meaningful to create new rituals and and traditions under this unwanted but present "new normal."
For family friends, peers, and friends living their lives as best they can with a loss during Christmas it is important to respect and not brush aside their down moments, be present with them as they share their stories and photos, and provide encouragement without forcing the merry, shopping, or crowded stores of the season.
For some being with others in a Christmas social can be healing. For others, this same event can only remind them of how life has changed, forever. There is no need to force what is not real this first Christmas....there will be another holiday season with new adjustments to loss and new expectations for gifting and sharing.
Honoring Grief On Christmas Eve is not an easy path.
So, give yourself permissions to do it different and give others the permissions to be different this year.
Stay present....Share your Christmas and family story.....Remember the calendar dates that come to the individuals or family throughout the year....Find ways of giving to others as a way of finding Gratitude and moving off of our own sorrow and sadness.
Honoring Grief on Christmas Eve takes courage, allowing others to help us, and understanding we can respect our traditions and at the same time develop new ways of celebrating as we continue to live out our "new normal."
Hope & Healing Place sends our best of best Christmas Eve thoughts to all readers of this blog and with all you share the thoughts of this blog with others.