What Sally understands is Christmas began for her and the kids in September.
While Sally had no interest in Halloween the two younger ones wanted to go look at masks and costumes.
So, Sally made it through the school Halloween carnival and walking the neighborhood.
Everyone was having so much fun Sally actually was glad the kids had their monster look and they faced Halloween together.
Thanksgiving was different....heavier....this time there was no mistake Thomas was not part of the planning, the football games. Sally did not have the energy to cook but there were plenty of prepared menus and "Thanksgiving take out" was OK in terms of food the younger brothers liked...and the Auburn win brought everyone off the couch!
Sally would have skipped it all, never gotten out of bed, avoided all the happy families on the endless holiday ads.
And now....after all that, there is Christmas.
The boys are caught between building expectations and the sadness of missing Thomas and his taking the brothers shopping and watching the games together, and all the growing up together opportunities that now will never happen.
Will this "season" of holidays never end? Why don't Sally's friends remember Thomas's death like she and the kids? Can I hold it together a few more weeks? Will the world look different January 1???
Halloween, Thanksgiving, and now Christmas...Sally can't do all this alone, nor does she have to. Hope & Healing Place has been and will be present with Sally and boys through all of the sadness, adjustments, and the ways Sally and the boys are family in new ways.