No one does the work of Grief unless they feel Safe.
At Hope & Healing Place the colors, carpet, and paintings on the wall all promote a feeling of Safety.
Most children, teens, and adults who come to Hope & Healing are nervous about telling their story, sharing a meal, and being with others who are telling their story.
In our grief support groups confidentiality is a key as each person shares why they are in the room that evening.
One of the ways we all feel safe or safer is Listening and Learning through the stories of others.
Another way of being and feeling safe is Time. Our different grief support groups go for 6 or 8 sessions, normally twice monthly. It is not unusual for a child, teen, or parent to be quiet for a session or two and then find their into the conversation and sharing.
In a support group people who do not know each other, from all zip codes and cultures and family types come together for the common search for support, meaning, and healing. As each feels their own sense of Safety they each share....amazing to be in the room with people of courage who learning coping skills and resiliency.
Feeling Safe, Being Safe is a critical part of healing from a peer or family death and a part of the grief journey we at Hope & Healing Place develop in the same ways we do our program services.
At Hope & Healing this is an important question.
There are two easy ways to begin.
First, our hhpamarillo.org web site is very user friendly. Click on Support Groups. Review the different support group and select one best for you& family. If you select Generations, our family program for example, a brief form can Yeah not. They sure for you be completed, which goes directly to Tiffany, our Program Director. She will then contact you for an opportunity to meet with you personally.
If there is no computer then call HHP at 371-8998, ext 1. We will talk together by phone. I can slow mail the our information to you and you can return in the way best for you.
We receive calls from counselors,pastor, and friends about a death "to make a referral." We appreciate each call. We explain we need to talk to or receive web based information directly from the individual or family and this works best for everyone.
At Hope & Healing we are here to serve children, teens, individuals, and families in a death situation. This is our mission. Talk with us by e, text, web, twitter, or phone.
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At Hope & Healing Place we talk to children, teens, and parents daily. Each telling of loss and missing is unique to that child, teen, or parent and individual.
5 words we believe important and often share on a daily basis include these.
1. SAFE: No one does the hard work of grief, sharing, and healing do so unless each feels SAFE. Our colors, walls, decorations are all selected to promote a sense of SAFETY. We hear that other do experience that sense and how important SAFETY is to addressing their family death.
2. COURAGE: One of the hardest walks is up our sidewalk or making that first call. In addition as a new person begins to share and listen with others there can be a fear of continuing their grief journey, of facing the pain of loss. We understand the COURAGE it takes to go through the pain.....and experience the healing that is possible by doing so.
3. LISTEN: One of the essentials of participating in a support group is LISTENING to and with others. Listening leads us all to compassion, another good word. LISTENING rather than telling can be a new personal next step for many. LISTENING is a primary part of our Volunteer Facilitator training as well.
4. SHOW-UP: If a person is SAFE, exhibits COURAGE this person begins their grief work well. But, there are times when someone stops coming or comes in an "in & out" schedule. So, one of the most important parts of moving to a sense of healing from grief is SHOWING UP, being present.
5. HOPE: To move through all the emotions, going forward/back & sideways in your grief journey, having an alive sense of HOPE is central. HOPE gives us energy, forward leaning, interest in connecting to others and thus to our true selves. At Hope & Healing HOPE images and art work is on many of our walls and art shelves. We are HOPEFUL people at Hope & Healing Place.
These are just 5 of many words at Hope & Healing. A 6th word might be a non-word, QUIET. Our volutneers and staff can set QUIETLY with someone or in a group with non-words....BEING PRESENT.
Talk with us, visit our web site at, volunteer, make a gift.....We do this work of grief together.
Many first callers to Hope & Healing Place ask for "counseling" for their kids or themselves.
When we meet the individual or family face to face we match to their grief to one or more of our 6 different Grief Support Groups. For example:
Heartprints - Infant loss
Generations - For the whole family, children, parents, grantsparents. Death impacts the whole family, therefore the whole family attends.
Journey - Spouse, parent, adult child loss
Hope Camp - Children from age 4 to 11
Gaining understanding from a family or peer death is best addressed in a supportive group setting.
When 6 to 9 children, teens, or adults set down together there is Learning....Learning about grief, what are normal reactions to a death.
There is also Listening.....Listening to the grief stories of others and feeling compassion about a death beyond their own death experience.
In the support group setting the members, at whatever age, Share.....each share their grief story. There is magic in the room as others listen and share with each others.
Some support Groups are "Open" which means new persons can enter or attend the group as best for that person.
Other Support Groups are "Closed" which means once the group cycle begins no new persons enter the group for the normal 6 or 8 sessions of that cycle.
Relationships that support healthy grieving develop across culture, zip code, type family, or cause of death.
At Hope & Healing Place we have members who stay in contact with each from groups that formally ended 5 yrs ago.
Support Groups are where children, teens, and parents can all be in different age groups, learn together, and grow together to a sense of helilng from a family or peer death.
Go to: www.hhpamarillo.org and click on Support Groups to learn more or register for the support group best for you!!
Hundreds of volunteers have attended training, led groups, fixed meals, repaired birdhouses, organized program supplies, and planted flowers in the Memory Garden.
The real evaluations of what is learned and how hearts are changed may take years to really know. The kids and teens in our grief groups grow up, off to college or career. Our adults may move, remarry, and continue their journey of healing.
The Hope & Healing volunteer may also move, raise their own kids, home school, pursue careers, and their service time at Hope & Healing may slip from today's memories.
Until there is a death within family, workplace, or adult or teen peer group.
In our training we say "What you learn about families and grief will support you and your family for the next 5, 10, or 20 yrs to come," True. The emails, calls, and notes reflect how hearts are healed from D.C. to Los Angeles, to Orlando, and more. The past volunteer may begin grief group in their church or temple or volunteer in the grief center where they live now.
So, after 10 yrs of training, serving, and keeping our mail lists updated we continue to improve our volunteer training as we Listen and Learn and Serve together. You, the blog reader today, can join with hundreds of others in healing the heart of a child, serve a meal, or repair a memory birdhouse.
Go to hhpamarillo.org and register to serve as a volunteer at Hope & Healing Place. Tiffany, Candi, Emily, and I look forward to greeting you beginning this important next step together.
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