My recommendation today is not a particular book. It is simply to tell you that the reading, writing and singing of words is healing. And to offer a few insights about those book habits...
- Don't feel conscientious about the self help book section.
- You are likely more comforted by books then people, because they don't contain platitudes like, "You can always have more kids".
- We say it in our groups and I will repeat it here, journal. Or as some do, write and shred. Get it out, don't hold on to those things you might be afraid for others to hear. And, don't feel guilty about writing of to good moments in life. Relish in them and know your loved one would be grateful they still happen.
- Find a battle cry, a song that you sing at the top of your lungs. You'll be glad you did.
My battle cry, you ask? It is "It is well with my soul". It was sang in it's original hymn version at Ethans funeral. And, I love the story behind it.
"This hymn was written after traumatic events in Spafford's life. The first was the death of his son at the age of 2 and the Great Chicago Fire of 1871, which ruined him financially (he had been a successful lawyer and had invested significantly in property in the area of Chicago that was extensively damaged by the great fire). His business interests were further hit by the economic downturn of 1873, at which time he had planned to travel to Europe with his family on the SS Ville du Havre. In a late change of plan, he sent the family ahead while he was delayed on business concerning zoning problems following the Great Chicago Fire. While crossing the Atlantic, the ship sank rapidly after a collision with a sea vessel, the Loch Earn, and all four of Spafford's daughters died. His wife Anna survived and sent him the now famous telegram, "Saved alone …". Shortly afterwards, as Spafford traveled to meet his grieving wife, he was inspired to write these words as his ship passed near where his daughters had died."
- Per Wikipedia